The High Five Moments!

You must have chaos within you to give birth to a dancing star

– Friedrich Nietzsche


So you are sitting in your car wasting away while waiting for the signal to go green, or you are idling around in the house trying to change the channels to see something better to help you convalesce from extreme boredom, and not to forget those times when a friend stood you up in that busy mall café and you felt anything but calm. There are so many instances I can quote when the inner chaos takes over and it is hard to not feel its wrath. If your are like most of the people, then you would reach straight out for your handheld device and try to choke time on all your social handles. But does that really help? Well let’s admit, how many times in a day do we actually get to do absolutely nothing at all and just sit and watch the worldly bedlam by? Why is it becoming so increasingly difficult to engage the self in the seemingly patterned chain of events? As Viktor Frankl puts it in his book “Man’s Search for Meaning”, it is easier to treat delirium with advances in psychiatric medicine but that one thing that is killing the world one person at a time is ‘Boredom’! It is claiming more lives than ever especially now when there is a whole plethora of options we can plump for. And to say the least, boredom is just the kick off point to ignite the dark alleys of inner frustrations and there goes another nefarious ripple wave out in the world spawning a never ending downward spiral…


So many years of education, yet nobody ever taught us how to love ourselves and why is it important


I recently did a simple experiment which proves to dilute all the pain triggers that certain situations like the ones I’ve mentioned in the start, allegedly cause. I have christened these situations as the “High-Five moments”! When the world is working on devising complicated means to asphyxiate the void in human life, I would like to go the Zen way and say “Truth is as subtle as simplicity!” Every time you see yourself being stuck in a situation where in you have no control whatsoever but only have to wait and watch the chaos around, here is a simple solution to not let the inner chaos manifest itself through your foul attitude. Play this simple game of thinking about top-5 things, places, people, or anything whatsoever under the sun to divert your mind from the external disorder that is disturbing your peace of mind. For example “Top 5 people on your mind who have changed your life for good”, “Top 5 hobbies you think you can make a profession out of”, Top 5 places you want to visit with the top 5 people you would want to accompany you”….the list is endless. And somewhere in the midst of these million permutations and combinations you would know that little voice inside your head a little better than before and you never know what this new revelation might lead to!


Within the Chaos, Magic is found

-Tara Gerris



Apart from the wonderful liberating game that you can indulge in to get rid of the brainchild of chaos i.e. boredom, Here is little excerpt from the teachings of Zen Master Soyen Shaku from his book “Zen for Americans” that are simple, precise but can cause a sea change in the DNA of our everyday disturbia…


Soyen Shaku, the first Zen teacher to come to America, said: “My heart burns like fire but my eyes are as cold as dead ashes.” He made the following rules which he practiced every day of his life.

In the morning before dressing, light incense and meditate.

Retire at a regular hour. Partake of food at regular intervals. Eat with moderation and never to the point of satisfaction.

Receive a guest with the same attitude you have when alone. When alone, maintain the same attitude you have in receiving guests.

Watch what you say, and whatever you say, practice it.

When an opportunity comes do not let it pass you by, yet always think twice before acting.

Do not regret the past. Look to the future.

Have the fearless attitude of a hero and the loving heart of a child.

Upon retiring, sleep as if you had entered your last sleep. Upon awakening, leave your bed behind you instantly as if you had cast away a pair of old shoes.


We spend all our lives investing our emotions and our mind on people, things, places we yearn for, and then when the prime of life is over, we realize we have now wrinkled and shrunken. If only we’d spent a little time with ourselves, on ourselves, for ourselves! I’ve seen quite a few videos on YouTube about the nonagenarians and centenarians and the regrets they carry even after all these years of living and seeing the world altering drastically in front of their eyes. The chief regret that almost all of them carry is not quite ‘living’ their youth when they had time, ‘not doing enough for the self when the time allowed’. If at all we can learn something from these people is that their regret could be our lesson…!


And sometimes I wonder

How it would all end

Will I feel the pain or desires I still tend?

I certainly wouldn’t remember the flowers that didn’t bloom

Nor the people I can’t be with, in the same room

All I might think about

Would be the moments I went deep

Of all the smiles I sowed

Not the lands that I reaped…




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